• Fashion

    Not in Tuscany, but close

    I got this cute dress from H&M 20% off! I can imagine wearing it on vacation to Italy. For the price, you can’t go wrong. It’s good quality for H&M and it’s super wearable. I can wear this dress while cooking dinner! And that’s the goal. To look pretty all the time at an affordable price.

    The hat is also from H&M and the best purchase I have made there in my ENTIRE LIFE. The hat is so amazing I tried to buy another one, but this was the last one they had. I even checked other stores! I was so lucky, I paid $7 bucks or something.

    The espadrilles are from Boden.co.uk. I love everything at Boden and they have the greatest customer service I have ever dealt with. Such lovely people, such a lovely store. I enjoy visiting Boden in Sloan Square when I go to London. Americans, check this store out! Europeans, shipping to Europe is only 7 pounds.

    When I first bought this dress, I could barely button it up. Well, I was able to button it up the other week. That’s not a big deal, but it’s a weight loss goal achieved. My next goal is to have this dress fit ‘Loosely’ which I think will happen after 5 kg weight loss. I’m 137 lbs right now, so I need to get to 133, then 127, then 123, and finally 120! Let’s keep going!

  • Advice

    Divorce is not a way to turn your now ex-husband into a babysitter so you can have ‘Me’ time

    I think the title says it all. I’m seeing far too many women discover that they can get a divorce, and have many days ‘off’ from parenting.

    These women are divorcing perfectly good husbands and ruining their kids’ futures for NO REASON.

    Parenting every other week, or getting ‘weekends off’ is not something you should be proud of.

    Here’s the deal…when you become a parent (hopefully a stay-at-home mom), you are not going to have time to do anything you want. That’s just the way it is. You know that going into it. But here’s the deal…you get to have kids which is THE BEST THING EVER.

    Do you think I’m stupid enough to think I’m going to be writing books while having a baby(ies) or toddler(s) around? No! It’s not going to happen. And that’s okay.

    It’s ok not to accomplish ‘Things’ in this world because raising good, strong, healthy, moral kids is more important.

    This post was inspired by a facebook post from a recent divorcee talking about all the spas she’s visiting on her ‘off from parenting duty’ days.

    Ugh! Come on women!

    I know we don’t have family to help us raise kids anymore, and many women work full-time. But that’s why it’s so important not to work full-time when you have children and to figure out creative ways of getting some alone time. It’s also why you want to raise your kids to be ‘quiet’ and sit still so when you are with your children they don’t drain your energy.

  • Advice

    Sinners Love to Spread Their Sin (because they can’t handle competition)

    I think it’s their favorite thing to do in life. It’s kinda sad!

    I have so many examples it’s almost unreal. I would love to list all the specific examples because then you’d really get to see the world through my eyes and maybe even reach my same conclusions. But I can’t give any specific examples, because I don’t know who reads my blog and because ratting people out is rude.

    I can say generically that people who get Divorced love to encourage others to Divorce. Divorce is like cancer, once it gets rooted in a family tree it spreads like wild fire and kills off everyone else.

    Women who get divorced (I include people who had children who didn’t make it down the aisle before breaking up in this category) for more ‘frivolous’ reasons (not cheating or affairs) tend to go after other people’s marriages. I’ve had several female divorcees take shots at my marriage. These women are in quarantine where they belong.

    Pre-marital sex is another sin people love to spread, almost gleefully. Especially to children, spreading that sin to children is great fun for them. Sexualizing young children is a sinners life goal, it validates all of their bad choices.

    I’ve committed one bad sin in my life. I committed it with a cynical knowledge of the present world and a ‘means to an end’ attitude. Do I repent? Yes. Do I encourage others to commit that sin? No. A sin only brings negative things into your life. Period.

    So why do people encourage others to sin?

    This is easy! The world is a hierarchy of people…with the best people at the top. And by ‘best people’ we don’t mean Hollywood actresses or rich people.

    Best people are intelligent, happily married to one person for 50+ years, have a ton of kids and grandchildren, good careers, an option for the mother to stay-at-home because the man earns enough to support the family, no divorce, no pre-marital sex, no previous partners, no debt, no drugs, no marijuana, no drama…etc etc etc

    Sinners are people who failed to obtain this dream and can’t admit it. They aren’t on the ‘Top of the Human Hierarchy’ and can’t deal with it. They are the B and C students who hate the A students. So instead of studying really hard for the next test, they try to get rid of the test…and sabotage the A students.

    If they can convince the A students to ‘eat the poison apple’ then there will be no A students anymore and the B and C students will become the A students.

    It’s Snow White…Snow White was the most beautiful girl in the land so the Queen tried to kill her so the Queen could be the most beautiful.

    Sinners try to eliminate their competition.

    Don’t fall for it.

  • Fashion

    AliExpress is Everything!

    I admit it! I buy clothing off of Aliexpress.com, and I love it! I’ve bought four items so far: a sweater for fun that smelled like formaldehyde, this lovely dress that had great reviews (it was worn by the actress who played Meghan Markle in the Lifetime movie Harry & Meghan,) a black dress which was too small but nice, and a very nice sweater that is a bit tight because I need to lose weight…sizing is fine. That doesn’t sound like a very good success rate does it? Well, as I told my girlfriend, remember those ‘mystery grab bags’ as a child where you don’t know what you are going to get but that’s half the fun? Exactly! That’s how I feel about clothing off of Aliexpress. However, there are ways to increase your ‘hit’ rate.

    1. Type in the dress you are looking for such as ‘Black off the shoulder dress’ in the search bar and then press the ‘Orders’ button so you can see which dresses have the highest numbers of orders
    2. Look at the pictures in the reviews…if the dress looks nice on other people…go for it!
    3. Remember, sizes run small! Suck up your pride and get the bigger size. Learn to sew.
    4. Don’t pay more than $30 for a dress, $20 is ideal
    5. Have $100 dollars play money…consider it gambling, entertainment money…it’s all about the thrill of What May Come
    6. Find a reputable store, stick with it
    7. Ask the seller questions about sizing, they are very friendly
    8. And most importantly…Control yourself! Buying a Kooples dress for $150 or an A.L.C dress for $200 that looks great on you is a better deal than buying off of Aliexpress. Aliexpress is Gambling Fashion, it’s a form of entertainment. Treat it as such.
    9. Accessories off of Aliexpress are a different beast…hair-clips and earrings SHOULD be bought from Aliexpress because they are the exact same product in stores

    I will create an Aliexpress buying guide soon. Until then, enjoy pictures of my dress. It’s a nice dress for Winter paired with my blue coat. I wore it to an event with my husband (pic here) and we took a group photo…I looked awesome! It photographed really well. The silk on the skirt is insanely low quality, but I’ve gotten a lot of joy out of the dress. It feels good to wear it on a coffee date and not stress about ruining it or spilling things. Sometimes, you need clothes that don’t cost that much.

  • Advice

    Being a Stay-At-Home Mom

    This was an amazing comment I read on The Transformed Wife. I thought I’d share it on my blog because it was so good!

    Dette var en fantastisk kommentar fra bloggen The Transformed Wife om at vaere et husmor. Jeg troede, jeg ville dele det med dig, fordi det var så godt!

    Lori, I don’t know what it is like with older children because mine are still 10 and under, but I know that even if we didn’t homeschool, I should like to be at home when they returned because my children have a short term approach to processing life and if my husband and I miss a window to instruct them it will be a very long time before we get the same opportunity again or never at all. For example, when they are curious about something or highly interested in something, in their view, it’s urgent and important. If I am busy or tired or distracted and selfishly brush them off or ignore them, it is forgotten and the next time I bring it up (if ever) they listen out of obedience but without the same enthusiasm. Whereas when I answer their questions in real time, with as much enthusiasm, they hang on my every word, they don’t forget my instruction and they are able to paraphrase my words accurately to their father when he comes home at the end of the day. It’s surprising how profound some of their little questions can be. Some have driven me to searching the Word of God for answers. Others have driven me to repentance.

    I pray for the wisdom to recognize these precious moments and to rise above any selfish tendencies within me, in order to respond to the umpteenth “Mama, mama….” even at the end of the day.

    Having a job outside the home would have me running on empty and unable to minister to my children beyond the physical needs yet it is their precious souls that will never die.

  • Advice,  Exercise,  Fashion

    Don’t Stop Looking in the Mirror

    Looking at these photos was hard. I’ve gained so much weight, my body is becoming a middle-aged square box, and my face is one big giant puffball of fat. Truly hideous. But sometimes to solve a problem, you have to confront it head on. So that’s what we are doing today.

    A famous Japanese facialist said that as women age, they stop looking in the mirror. But her opinion was that as you age, you should look at yourself in the mirror even more because so much of ageing is preventable.

    But it’s hard. Very hard. I have no excuses. I’m a self-employed housewife with a very flexible schedule, the only stress I have in my life is from our struggle to conceive. In fact, my weight gain is now the source of most of my stress and that’s not good.

    Anyways, enough about my weight….I bought some new clothes! I got this lovely eyelet top from Vince Camuto. I think it is quite old, I just found it randomly on the rack for a very big discount. French Connection has a similar blouse that looks even better on me than this one, I am waiting for a sale. The sweater is from Lolly’s Laundry (Love it!) and the headband is from H&M (Love it also!) I got some cheap navy shorts from H&M to tie me over until I lose weight and can purchase something a bit more chic.

  • Fashion,  Travel

    My London Shopping Trip

    Next weekend, Nick and I are going to London! It’s just for 3 days. The first day we are exploring Windsor and hopefully getting a glimpse of Meghan, Harry and the new baby at Frogmore Cottage. The second day is half-Windsor, half-London. And the third day is all about shopping in London! I have one whole day for shopping all by myself. So I have to make a game-plan. Here is my list:

    Selfridges London, Oxford St.

    My goal with Selfridges is to hit up the food department. It’s like Whole Foods on steroids. Kombucha, organic everything, and the best small farm french yogurt in the world. I’m really into high-quality yogurt…it’s weird but great.

    My second goal is to try on clothing from Claudie Pierlot, JBrand, Paige, Theory, and Reiss. I make a list of everything that looks good on me and then scoop it all up during the June/July sales.

    GOAT Fashion, Mayfair

    I would love to have a dress from Goat Fashion. I can’t afford full-price, but I’m sure I could manage a sale item. The plan is to go to the shop, figure out my size, style and color and wait for the sale.

    Boden

    Oh I can’t wait to shop at Boden! They have the best customer service in the entire world. Their clothes are wonderful. I have had only positive experiences with Boden. I can’t wait to shop, shop, and shop some more! I hope there is a sale, but if there isn’t, I’ll just make a list and buy everything on offer. The best thing about Boden? The petite section!

    J.Crew, Regent St.

    I need to hit up J.Crew to double check some sizing for some U.S. orders I want to place. If there is a sale, and the prices are close to American prices, then I may buy something.

    The White Company

    The White Company is another wonderful U.K. store, almost equal to Pottery Barn in the U.S. I love everything they have, although they are pricey. But the sales are great, and if you have the patience you can get really nice things at a good discount. I’m looking for home decor and clothing.

    French Connection, Oxford St.

    And finally, my old-fave…French Connection. I just want to pop on in and see if there are a few items that tickle my fancy.

  • Fashion

    My Purple Dress

    Jeg købte denne lilla, mønstrede kjole fra det Baum und Pferdgarten Lagersalg for tre hundrede kroner! I mange måneder, kiggede jeg på den kjoler på Boozt.com hvor det koster 700 kroner. Jeg var meget glad for at finde den i lagersalget.

    I bought this dress from Baum und Pferdgarten for $40 at their sample sale! I had seen the dress on Boozt.com for around 700-750 dkk which is double. I was so glad to find the dress, I rarely look good in patterns but this one is not so bad. It is jersey and so comfy!

    Above I have included some styles available to American audiences. I recommend any dress from Stine Goya and Baum und Pferdgarten in order to get a similar look.

  • Fashion

    Snow Canyon Utah

    I’m so excited to share these amazing photos we took with Arika from Zion Adventure Photography! The next time me and Nick are in the area we are going to take photos in The Narrows! The landscape photos are from Nick’s iphone.

    Jeg er så begejstret for at dele disse billeder fra vores rejse til Utah! Arika fra Zion Adventure Photography gjorde en fantastisk arbejde.